More comparisons

As mentioned in a previous post, for me, searching for a new home is not at all unlike searching for a new mate. However, I have discovered that preparing the new place is extremely unlike how I should prepare for a relationship.

For example…

• I didn’t like the colors of the wall, so I am painting them. I can’t change a person’s color, attitude or personality with a coat of paint; so I should make sure that I like them the way they are; I shouldn’t expect that I can change them, or that they will change on their own.
• I didn’t like the stinky carpet in the living room, so I ripped it up to discover hardwood floors. There may be many gems under the surface of someone I choose to date, but it is not MY job to rip off their exterior to discover it. I can be there to offer love, compassion and understanding, but I can’t do the work! So I should make sure I can accept/tolerate/not resent their issues, and by the way make sure they can do the same for me and my issues.
• I have a list of items that need to be fixed. Some broken/cracked windows, some places on the walls to be patched. A banister to be replaced. In finding someone to date, they will have places that need to be patched, but it is not my job to fill these voids in their life. The “you complete me” theory is fine and romantic theoretically, but it’s a crock of shit! You should complement each other…not complete. I feel that statement warrants repeating: You should complement each other… not complete each other!
  
  Basically I guess I don’t mind getting one of those “fixer-uppers” for a home; but not for a partner! Ok, I don't so much mind getting a fixer-upper; but I'm not doin' the work! I got my own fixin' uppin' to do! There's enough work here for my lifetime.
  
  
  That’s all for now. I’ll post before and after pictures of the new place soon.